This is a blog by two guys who are trying to be decent dads.
Steve and Chris are old college buddies -- Oberlin class of 1990. Steve has two daughters, a 2-year-old and a 2-month-old. Chris has a boy due any day now.
Steve thinks he has things to teach Chris about the Dad thing, because Steve always has lots of advice. But the fact is, if you've raised one newborn-toddler aged kid, you've raised one newborn-toddler aged kid. We are trying to boost our sample size here in hopes of gaining some real data. Steve has things to learn, too.
We both happen to have good dads. Steve's dad told him the secret to fatherhood is finding a partner who's going to be a good mother. We're both fortunate to have done so. On the other hand, while this is a necessary condition for decent father status, it's probably not sufficient. There is some stuff that you need to step up and actually do. This includes making the job of your partner easier, so that she can be the optimal mom, and so that she does not kill you in your sleep.
The great truth we're exploring here is, "What is the minimum condition for being an okay dad?" Of course, if we happen to tell some entertaining anecdotes about our kids along the way, so much the better. What we hope to have eventually is a compendium of ideas for new or incipient dads. By ideas, we mean ways of aiding in your child's development and, more important, demonstrating to your partner that you are not a total loser.
Bear in mind that, as part of quest to be decent dads, we may lapse in our blogging duties from time to time. Never fear. We're thinking about you.
Send us your questions, or your answers to the questions we've raised. We're open-minded. The issue today is this: What's the number one best advice you can offer Chris, who's about to have his first child?
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